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Sexual abuse is the unwanted touching in a sexual way, and the attempted or completed penetration of the anus and/or mouth by penis, hands, fingers, mouth or objects through emotional and/or physical coercion and may include the sexual exploitation in prostitution or pornography.
Most sexual abusers are well-known to the boy—a relative, neighbor, friend, doctor, priest or teacher—who betray the trust of the boy. The boy often confuses the closeness and trust with sexual intimacy.
Age, sexual orientation, gender identity—it does not matter. Boys who have been sexually assaulted or abused face additional challenges because of societal stereotypes about masculinity. Sexual abuse is in no way related to the sexual orientation or gender identity of the perpetrator or the victim—it is the taking advantage of the boy's vulnerability. Sexual abuse may cause some boys to question their sexuality. If a boy has a homosexual orientation, he is often blamed for the seduction of the older male, instead of being acknowledged as a legitimate victim of sexual abuse. The boy's sexual orientation is not the cause of or the result of sexual abuse.
If an erection or ejaculation is experienced during the assault, perpetrators use the body's involuntary response to convince the victim—that they must like it—that they asked for it—that they wanted it. The pleasure of sexual contact can make the boy feel good, but that does not mean the boy wanted to have his vulnerability manipulated and exploited into being used sexually. Sexual abuse is not a sexual experience. It is an act of violence that violates the boy's sense of personal safety and control over his life. The sexual abuser is motivated by the desire to control, dominate, hurt and humiliate the boy, not by sexual desire.
Sexual abuse of boys is on the periphery of the discourse on child abuse, but sexual abuse of boys is real and significant—a neglected issue—with an estimated seventeen percent of boys experiencing sexual abuse before the age of sixteen. The median age of sexual abuse is eight years old. A cultural bias maintains that males cannot be victims. Males are expected to be confident, knowledgeable, and aggressive. Boys often have less legal protection for sexual abuse than girls since parents, doctors, and police often "blame the victim" since it is believed that boys have freedom of choice. The true magnitude of sexual abuse of boys is hidden, as shame, stigma, and fear prevent boys from reporting the abuse.